My Dear Sir, I’m In Love With Your Wife
Illicit affair gone sour
The news of an Indian Army officer killing his alleged lover, who was also wife of a fellow officer hit the news headlines in the fag end of June 2018. It’s not that incidents of Army personnel caught on wrong foot are any uncommon nowadays but this one has crossed all limits.
An officer posted at far North East region of the country befriend wife of another officer and during the course of next three years, as per media reports, manages to establish deep relations with her. Once the lady moved to national capital consequent to the posting of husband, accused follows her there and persists on his proposal to marry her. All this while, both of them carry on with their routine married life with respective legally wed partners and offsprings. One fateful day, lover acts decisively. He calls her up and meets her at a hospital. She willing gets into his luxury sedan and both drove down to a secluded area of Army Cantt. What happened between them is a matter of speculation. The picture appearing thereafter showed her dishevelled clothes when her body was found on a road in a pool of blood. Her throat had been slit and she had been run over by the vehicle.
The media termed the incident as desperate measure taken by an “obsessive” lover. Given the circumstantial evidence, including video calls between the two, eagerness of deceased to get into the car and her husband aware of the relationship, it can be anything but a one-sided affair gone too far. The Facebook profile of murdered and the ‘murderer’ didn’t have the photos with family, contrary to prevailing trend in India. It suspiciously point towards their strained marital status. It’s interesting to observe that both of their better halves however had posted family pictures. The wife of the accused even had his name along with hers on the display. The psychology suggests that while one side was prepared to give fractured marriage another chance, the other side either considered it over or was dragging it on.
Given the stress factor and ever reducing quality time, nowadays strained relationships are common among couples in the age bracket of 25-35 years. In the era of 2 minute noodles the bonding between two different personalities is considered instant post marriage, without giving any time to nurture it. Even concrete requires time to get desired strength. The relatives exert additional pressure by labelling them as ‘made for each other’. The essence of love and understanding starts getting crumpled under the stress of being seen as “happily married”. Only God can save those who have a nagging in-law to compound the issue further. Such marriages are always a non starter and remains like pulling of plough by bullocks. These families are often named as ‘perfect families’ in later years. More ferocious ones part their ways for good. Few with poor values and moral turpitude try to find solace in the company of another partner from some other marriage. In common language it is called ‘extra marital affair’ and in Army it is called ‘stealing affection of brother officers wife’. There is no terminology in case the act involves a lady officer with the husband of a colleague. Perhaps they are waiting for an episode to make suitable amendments.
The social media platforms play an important role and are major driving factor behind the depleting moral standards of the society. The constant urge to get ‘likes’, to have maximum friends and flattering comments on the pics at the ‘voyeuristic sites’, politely named as socialising or connecting platforms makes person to fake reality. People with low self control gets obsessive to the stage that they start emulating falseness in real life. Yes, such portals have the potential to dangerously play with your mind. They have the ability to encourage you to get engaged in voyeur. Almost everyone becomes a peeping tom looking into others lives through FB, Insta, Pin etc. Haven’t you checked out your friends account to know where he had been during holidays or to find out the kind of friends your relatives have? It is the starting point of race to self destruction. Few with poor loyalty standards complete this race faster than others. As has happened in the current scenario, leaving one dead and other behind bars.
Illicit should never be morphed as right to individual choice. It’s high time we stop pretending and start projecting what we actually are. If the tendency to show off is not curbed, even if we don’t get entangled in a bigger mess, the peace of mind is bound to get doomed. Simplistic life and humility is the need of the hour. It’s applicable to every sphere of life be it family, friends or religion. Otherwise, case of an armyman authorised to kill adversaries training his knife on near ones will repeat, may be in some different form.
